A negative comment about a party at Arisia

[xiphias]

Far as I'm concerned, you can EITHER have an invite-only party OR you can advertise your party.

But it's FUCKING RUDE to advertise your invite-only party.

Don't mind invite-only parties. Don't even mind invite-only parties who, apparently, were going around handing out invites only to women who were dressed slutty. Heck, if someone took that to the extreme, and walked around the con handing out slips of paper which said, "You're sexy. Come to my room at 11 pm," that wouldn't bother me. And if he or she got people to show up, more power to him or her.

DO mind people who do that and also put posters up in the stairwells advertising their party. It's fucking RUDE to do that, then set up a velvet rope outside, and do the "club" thing. Dunno about you, but I go to cons to get away from that kind of dynamic.

Yes, I'm pissed off at not being pretty enough to get into that party.

Comments

Re: One of the Party Hosts

[surrealestate.livejournal.com]

As a long-time party host (of non-Arisia parties) and attendee of the Skank events, I just wanted to give you guys a big thanks for throwing such a great party. I also put hundreds of hours and dollars into my (also themed) parties, and I also get flak from people who are unhappy about the dress code, so I feel your pain. (And that's with many weeks' notice for them to figure something out, or just make other plans.)

I had a great time at your party and look forward to next year's. I know y'all aren't entirely local, but I'd love to be in touch by email. If you're amenable, you can contact me via pheromone at livejournal dot com.

And I don't know if we actually met, but I was Batgirl on Saturday night.

Re: One of the Party Hosts

[tehuti.livejournal.com]

If you know how to contact the organizers of this party, I would appreciate some contact info. This was a great party, and I'd like a little more notice for next year.