A negative comment about a party at Arisia

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Far as I'm concerned, you can EITHER have an invite-only party OR you can advertise your party.

But it's FUCKING RUDE to advertise your invite-only party.

Don't mind invite-only parties. Don't even mind invite-only parties who, apparently, were going around handing out invites only to women who were dressed slutty. Heck, if someone took that to the extreme, and walked around the con handing out slips of paper which said, "You're sexy. Come to my room at 11 pm," that wouldn't bother me. And if he or she got people to show up, more power to him or her.

DO mind people who do that and also put posters up in the stairwells advertising their party. It's fucking RUDE to do that, then set up a velvet rope outside, and do the "club" thing. Dunno about you, but I go to cons to get away from that kind of dynamic.

Yes, I'm pissed off at not being pretty enough to get into that party.

Comments

Re: One of the Party Hosts

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Yeah, my time at the door talking to the guardian was spent finding out what the dress code was, and then we slipped down the hall and complied with it. And yes, it would have been easy to get a bad feel from that discussion, but I routinely get told no in much less agreeable ways, by people who are professionally mean, so I just talked through it. It really depended on how you heard what was being said, and the presentation was borderline. On the other hand, this discussion started from the lack of major incident, and the people who were cruising for booze, with the intent of getting polluted and falling down the stairs didn't seem to be able to comprehend and comply with the dress code. So, in a way, it worked.

And for the poster down the thread who complained about how the party seemed organized to draw conventionally attractrive women, there was at least one fantasticly attractive man there. I had to stand between my wife and him at one point to get her attention to ask a question :)