A negative comment about a party at Arisia

[xiphias]

Far as I'm concerned, you can EITHER have an invite-only party OR you can advertise your party.

But it's FUCKING RUDE to advertise your invite-only party.

Don't mind invite-only parties. Don't even mind invite-only parties who, apparently, were going around handing out invites only to women who were dressed slutty. Heck, if someone took that to the extreme, and walked around the con handing out slips of paper which said, "You're sexy. Come to my room at 11 pm," that wouldn't bother me. And if he or she got people to show up, more power to him or her.

DO mind people who do that and also put posters up in the stairwells advertising their party. It's fucking RUDE to do that, then set up a velvet rope outside, and do the "club" thing. Dunno about you, but I go to cons to get away from that kind of dynamic.

Yes, I'm pissed off at not being pretty enough to get into that party.

Comments

Re: One of the Party Hosts

[chanaleh.livejournal.com]

It wasn't so much "in costume", but I was indeed dressed up (black satin halter gown, ankle length). But thanks for clarifying! :-)

My date OTOH was not dressed up. But also, as I said in a later comment, we weren't even *looking* for this party... we had not received an invitation earlier, so that was ACTUALLY why they turned us away at the door (dress code was never discussed), and that struck me as perfectly reasonable grounds on which to deny us admittance. And as it happens, my sweetie would actually not have been comfortable there At All (for totally personal reasons) if we had been admitted, so it all worked out just fine.

Re: One of the Party Hosts

[laurion]

Also true. I was turned away by an otherwise very nice blond woman for not having an invite. Dress code wasn't mentioned.