A negative comment about a party at Arisia

[xiphias]

Far as I'm concerned, you can EITHER have an invite-only party OR you can advertise your party.

But it's FUCKING RUDE to advertise your invite-only party.

Don't mind invite-only parties. Don't even mind invite-only parties who, apparently, were going around handing out invites only to women who were dressed slutty. Heck, if someone took that to the extreme, and walked around the con handing out slips of paper which said, "You're sexy. Come to my room at 11 pm," that wouldn't bother me. And if he or she got people to show up, more power to him or her.

DO mind people who do that and also put posters up in the stairwells advertising their party. It's fucking RUDE to do that, then set up a velvet rope outside, and do the "club" thing. Dunno about you, but I go to cons to get away from that kind of dynamic.

Yes, I'm pissed off at not being pretty enough to get into that party.

Comments

[querldox.livejournal.com]

I dunno. I was considering making it out to Arisia this year and doing a party to celebrate 25 years since my first con (which was Boskone, but I figure Arisia + Boskone these days = approximately an early 80s Boskone). Had I done so, particularly if it'd been Friday night, I would've strongly considered advertising it as a private party for people who know me, with the advertising to make sure such knew about it in case I'd not run into such a person.

But I think that's a bit different than a mundane "club"/"Hot or Not" bit.

[ckd]

I am rather tempted to have an "@! - 20" party at Boskone 44, which would use the old @! party admission criteria...but you would have to have met them for Boskone 24.

In 1987, I was still in highschool...

[happypete.livejournal.com]

so I didn't have my Georgia Tech e-mail account, but luckily the nascent FidoNet <-> Internet e-mail gateway would have qualified me.