You ever have that thing . . .

[xiphias]

. . . where you simultaneously want to socialize AND are feeling peopled out?

Comments

[candle-light.livejournal.com]

Yes exactly that. It is a huge frustration of being a social introvert.

[paper-crystals.livejournal.com]

Now. Now I am feeling that. I also felt it the year when I went to DC and NYC and then finished off with Arisia. Yeah. I spent all of Arisia being social and bitching about how I didn't want to be.

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[paper-crystals.livejournal.com]

How I didn't want to be social.

[sarianna.livejournal.com]

Yeah. Then I go online.

[ailsaek.livejournal.com]

Was that the problem? I was trying to figure out what I did to offend you guys.

[xiphias.livejournal.com]

Holy oops.

Naw. Lis went home peopled out early; I went home peopled out later.

[geekosaur]

I get that a lot too.

[asciikitty.livejournal.com]

all the damn time.

[bikergeek.livejournal.com]

Yup. I'm blessed to be surrounded by quite a large number of really spiffy folks whom I enjoy spending time with. However, I'm also an introvert, and going to a party where there are DOZENS of them tires me out very quickly, no matter how much I like them. This is why I like going to a con--if I get peopled out I can retreat to my hotel room for a while and read or nap.

[rosefox]

I got the sense that everyone felt like that today. I didn't even last four hours.

[nitoda]

all the time - especially at events like BiCon and far too often at the Polyamory Meetup group I help to organise in London, especially if the pub is crowded with folks who are not at that event, which happens all too often. I just want to go away and hide.

[hfcougar.livejournal.com]

All the time. There's a tiny group of people - basically, my boyfriend, his wife, and my two foster parents - who I am always in the mood to see, especially if I'm the kind of stressed or overwhelmed that will make me maim anyone else I am plagued with having to see.

[katster.livejournal.com]

I was not doing well out in the real world, trying to grocery shop. All the annoying humans were getting in my way. That's generally a sign that I need to go find a dark room somewhere and chill out for a while.

On the other hand, I wouldn't mind having friends around to chat with...

-kat

[mswae.livejournal.com]

When I feel like that, I ask Dan to invite some of his friends over (well, our friends, but when the goal is to play a 12 hour train game they're his friends). Then I cook for them and otherwise ignore them except to pop in to the dining room and say hi every once in a while. Scratches the social itch without making me feel trapped.

[arib.livejournal.com]

Yeah. It was called "yesterday."

[roadnotes.livejournal.com]

Oh, yes. Far too often, sometimes.

[mudpriestess.livejournal.com]

Pretty much constantly. Sometimes the only "people" I can be around are the cats.

[greenlily.livejournal.com]

All the time. It's why I loved the RD House so much, and why I probably will still have roommates when I'm 70. :) Hanging out with people I live with, satisfies my need to socialize and doesn't make me peopled-out.

(Mind you, that does depend on the person. mrmorse is the awesomest of awesome housemates, and zenala and ocschwar were terrific apart from the clutter problems, but some of the girls I lived with in the apartment before this one would drive me into my room for hours at a time to keep from telling them exactly what I thought of them. :))

[navrins]

Strangely, I've recently been finding myself in what might be the opposite situation. I don't want to socialize at all, but at the same time I want to be near people.

that is

[wolfdancer.livejournal.com]

what chat rooms are for.
Hugs.

[micheinnz.livejournal.com]

Happens to me all the time. If I can, I get the hell out for a while and just chill until I'm ready to go back in. Fortunately most of the people I hang out with understand what's going on and leave me to it. It can get frustrating when people come to look for me and decide that I must want to chat with them because I can't possibly want to be on my own, but most of the time it's okay.

[roozle.livejournal.com]

Yes.

[jehanna.livejournal.com]

Yeah. It's inherently unsatisfying.

[vvalkyri.livejournal.com]

I'm glad you weren't overpeopled earlier in the evening. Thank you for the conversation time in the pool!

[eerielass.livejournal.com]

yes! Maybe partly the reason we didn't make it to the party thing the other night. Also because it was raining and my cousin and I walked from Davis square to Central via the river, to Inman and back again and our feet weren't working. We were extremely curious though - hope you had fun.

[xiphias.livejournal.com]

We had a fantastic time. You would have enjoyed it.

Many of us went swimming, under the theory that, at some point, we weren't going to get any wetter, so why NOT go into the pool?

If firespinning happened, I left before it. It's possible that they didn't do it this year, because of the rain. But the rain didn't keep people from doing anything else.

[stickylatex.livejournal.com]

Right now! For the past three months, actually.

[baratron.livejournal.com]

Yes.

I'm normally extroverted, but when I'm tired and low on spoons already? And if the venue's too noisy? Instant inability to cope.