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[xiphias]

It is amazing how poorly I deal with Lis being stressed. If I'm stressed, okay, I don't deal with that real well. But if Lis is stressed, I get dizzy, can't breathe, my muscles sieze up, and my vision goes fuzzy. Those are all "normal" symptoms of severe stress. But I get them when Lis is stressed, not me.

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[noveldevice.livejournal.com]

Wow. I just read this to Ranj. He says it sounds very familiar.

When I freak out, he really can't take it. When he's stressed or upset, cool, he just does his best to deal. When I lose it, he loses it too.

I wonder why?

[kiya]

teinedreugan and I have a similar problem. :/

[bikergeek.livejournal.com]

Ayesha and I have a similar problem. Our stresses feed each others' in a particularly nasty way.

That happens to my partner

[ailbhe]

He has found it helps to work out Ailbhe-stress-alleviating techniques, such as feeding me tea and so on. Also, he is getting slightly better at telling me that I'm oozing stress from every pore and thus gettingme to explain why I'm stressed. This is almost never because of him.

[angelovernh.livejournal.com]

sounds like Love ;)

[ex-serenejo.livejournal.com]

I was just telling cute-poet-chick last night that I am utterly happy in my life right now, except for my inability to cope with *her* unhappiness, so I feel ya.

*hugs*

[teddywolf.livejournal.com]

It's because of your selfless streak. You don't get that way for you cuz, well, it's 'just you'. But Lis... she's Lis.

Done there, been that, ate the t-shirt - and it was liver-flavored (ptoo!)

Well, OK, I was not quite as stressed. But. I worry more about Tigerlily's occasional bad mood or Ayesha's occasional unhappiness than I do about when I'm feeling under the weather. I can control me and directly make myself better. It's not as easy when I don't control the situation as much but it's of vital importance to me.

[navrins]

I don't know about you, but I find I mostly get stressed about things I need to do something about, feel like I should be able to, and can't. When it's you who's stressed, you can often either do something about it (by solving the problem) or come to the conclusion that no, you really can't do anything, so you can let it go at least a little..

But if it's someone else you care about who's stressed, sometimes you still feel like you should be able to do something, and the only thing stopping you is that it's her problem to solve, not yours - you can't solve it for her, yet, because you care so much about her, it's partly your own problem too.

I have been there.