A negative comment about a party at Arisia

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Far as I'm concerned, you can EITHER have an invite-only party OR you can advertise your party.

But it's FUCKING RUDE to advertise your invite-only party.

Don't mind invite-only parties. Don't even mind invite-only parties who, apparently, were going around handing out invites only to women who were dressed slutty. Heck, if someone took that to the extreme, and walked around the con handing out slips of paper which said, "You're sexy. Come to my room at 11 pm," that wouldn't bother me. And if he or she got people to show up, more power to him or her.

DO mind people who do that and also put posters up in the stairwells advertising their party. It's fucking RUDE to do that, then set up a velvet rope outside, and do the "club" thing. Dunno about you, but I go to cons to get away from that kind of dynamic.

Yes, I'm pissed off at not being pretty enough to get into that party.

Comments

[voltbang.livejournal.com]

Percieved to be conventional sexyness. I don't think that actualy was the criteria, as I was in the party, and observed some guests who were conventionally sexy, some who were unconventionally sexy, and some whose sexyness totally escaped me, but they did all more or less fit the dress code as described at the door.

[dda.livejournal.com]

...they did all more or less fit the dress code as described at the door.

I'll buy that; I think the dress code was described on the poster and I know it was described on the invite. I'm just saying that I if the dress code were more related to, say, a period of dress (Victorian or Edwardian or 80s), the reactions wouldn't be so outraged.