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A negative comment about a party at Arisia
Far as I'm concerned, you can EITHER have an invite-only party OR you can advertise your party.
But it's FUCKING RUDE to advertise your invite-only party.
Don't mind invite-only parties. Don't even mind invite-only parties who, apparently, were going around handing out invites only to women who were dressed slutty. Heck, if someone took that to the extreme, and walked around the con handing out slips of paper which said, "You're sexy. Come to my room at 11 pm," that wouldn't bother me. And if he or she got people to show up, more power to him or her.
DO mind people who do that and also put posters up in the stairwells advertising their party. It's fucking RUDE to do that, then set up a velvet rope outside, and do the "club" thing. Dunno about you, but I go to cons to get away from that kind of dynamic.
Yes, I'm pissed off at not being pretty enough to get into that party.
But it's FUCKING RUDE to advertise your invite-only party.
Don't mind invite-only parties. Don't even mind invite-only parties who, apparently, were going around handing out invites only to women who were dressed slutty. Heck, if someone took that to the extreme, and walked around the con handing out slips of paper which said, "You're sexy. Come to my room at 11 pm," that wouldn't bother me. And if he or she got people to show up, more power to him or her.
DO mind people who do that and also put posters up in the stairwells advertising their party. It's fucking RUDE to do that, then set up a velvet rope outside, and do the "club" thing. Dunno about you, but I go to cons to get away from that kind of dynamic.
Yes, I'm pissed off at not being pretty enough to get into that party.
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Given that I ran Events this year, I'm pretty sure I know what qualifies. :-) You are correct that we cannot hold a public event that serves alcohol that isn't purchased from the hotel (aka a cash bar). We did have just such a cash bar for the First Night event, for example.
In addition, it would be difficult to have an "invite only" Event at Arisia (other than limits on numbers of attendees for fire codes); it would have to be open to all comers although it is quite reasonable to request a certain type of dress. The Victorian Dance did just that and several people showed up in fabulous costumes while others were in what could be considered "fen normal."
I doubt it is what you have in mind but if you want to put on an event next year, send email to events [at] arisia [dot] org and whomever is running it next year will get in touch with you.