A negative comment about a party at Arisia

[xiphias]

Far as I'm concerned, you can EITHER have an invite-only party OR you can advertise your party.

But it's FUCKING RUDE to advertise your invite-only party.

Don't mind invite-only parties. Don't even mind invite-only parties who, apparently, were going around handing out invites only to women who were dressed slutty. Heck, if someone took that to the extreme, and walked around the con handing out slips of paper which said, "You're sexy. Come to my room at 11 pm," that wouldn't bother me. And if he or she got people to show up, more power to him or her.

DO mind people who do that and also put posters up in the stairwells advertising their party. It's fucking RUDE to do that, then set up a velvet rope outside, and do the "club" thing. Dunno about you, but I go to cons to get away from that kind of dynamic.

Yes, I'm pissed off at not being pretty enough to get into that party.

Comments

Re: One of the Party Hosts

[xiphias.livejournal.com]

. . . which means that my wife and I were either turned away because we weren't in costume, or because we're skeevy.

. . . and there's no way to tell. Hmm. Oh, well, there goes MY self-esteem. . .

Yes, I'm being humorous.

Kinda.

Re: One of the Party Hosts

[(Anonymous)]

That hot blonde (my sister) remembers you & says it was your lack of costumes. :) Couples aren't skeevy, it's the single guys in jeans and t-shirts that forgot to shower that we're trying to filter. We want everyone inside to bring something to the party.

We also want the ladies (often in skimpy outfits) to feel comfortable, and not (overtly) leered at, and the guys too. I personally especially love when guys are too warm in their leather pants and go back to their rooms to come back in less. :)

[swashbucklr]

I recall last year, when I was working as Arisia Security, having to rather forcefully insist that someone leave the nice Skank party people alone. He kept insisting that he met the "dress code" but he was rather offensive both in manner and odor.

I completely respect the desire to keep skeevy people away, and make everyone else comfortable. It's a hard thing to do, even when you have the help of the party czar and con security.