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xiphiasSee, I have this rule which is, "Cause no unnecessary pain." And it also goes along with another rule which is "Cause no unintentional pain."
That second one is less fundamental than the first one, because, well, no matter how good you are at living your life, you're always going to cause SOME accidental pain. But the rule says that you should kind of try to be aware of that, and don't be a total moron about it.
And the first rule says that, well, when you're living your life, sometimes you're going to hurt people, but you should do it as little as possible, and only when there's really no better way -- that avoiding hurting someone would cause more hurt later, or more hurt to more people. Or, y'know, some other reason -- maybe there's issues of honor, or trust, or something involved that mean that you've got no option except hurting someone. That's "necessary pain", and it's not GOOD, but, well, it's necessary.
So, what's the absolute worst kind of pain to cause? Stuff that's totally unnecessary and totally unintentional, but not really ACCIDENTAL. Like, you realize afterward, or, more often, right in the middle of it, that you are being an absolute total fuckwit moron, and it's hurting someone.
Things I learned today:
1. Just because you feel comfortable joking with someone about their OWN death doesn't mean that you should assume that it's a good idea to joke about OTHER people's deaths.
2. I can be a total fuckwit moron. (Actually, that's not news; I knew that before.)
3. Sometimes, you kind of wish that you could just agree with someone to pretend that something you said just absolutely never happened and you will all Never Speak Of This Again.
Um. The rest of the day was good, though.
That second one is less fundamental than the first one, because, well, no matter how good you are at living your life, you're always going to cause SOME accidental pain. But the rule says that you should kind of try to be aware of that, and don't be a total moron about it.
And the first rule says that, well, when you're living your life, sometimes you're going to hurt people, but you should do it as little as possible, and only when there's really no better way -- that avoiding hurting someone would cause more hurt later, or more hurt to more people. Or, y'know, some other reason -- maybe there's issues of honor, or trust, or something involved that mean that you've got no option except hurting someone. That's "necessary pain", and it's not GOOD, but, well, it's necessary.
So, what's the absolute worst kind of pain to cause? Stuff that's totally unnecessary and totally unintentional, but not really ACCIDENTAL. Like, you realize afterward, or, more often, right in the middle of it, that you are being an absolute total fuckwit moron, and it's hurting someone.
Things I learned today:
1. Just because you feel comfortable joking with someone about their OWN death doesn't mean that you should assume that it's a good idea to joke about OTHER people's deaths.
2. I can be a total fuckwit moron. (Actually, that's not news; I knew that before.)
3. Sometimes, you kind of wish that you could just agree with someone to pretend that something you said just absolutely never happened and you will all Never Speak Of This Again.
Um. The rest of the day was good, though.