Saw the doctor today
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xiphiasDr. Sagov is very difficult to make appointments with, so I saw Dr. Altman, who's the other physician in the practice. I'm starting to really like him. Not as much as I like Dr. Sagov, because, well, Dr. Sagov has been my doctor since I was a wee tot, but Dr. Altman has many of the same traits that make Dr. Sagov a good doctor.
Anyway, the upshot is he upped my dosage of Lexapro, with the comment that it looked like the medication started failing about when the days started getting shorter, so we'll revisit the dosage in six weeks, and, if things are getting better, possibly cut back to the original dosage, with a note to go back up to the higher dosage in November.
And we also talked briefly about therapy as a possibility. I said that, while I wasn't resistant to the idea in principle, I wasn't enthusiastic about it, because I've seen maybe a dozen therapists of one stripe or another in my life, working with six of them fairly extensively, and had really nothing to show for it.
But Lis and I were talking about it further, and I'm trying to figure out if it's time to re-open the question and maybe start again.
And, well, as my friends list is chock full of 1) therapists 2) medical personel of various sorts 3) generally wise people 4) people who've benefited from therapy (with lots of overlap between categories), I figured I'd ask here.
The problem is that, well, therapy has mainly been a great waste of time and money for me. I don't know how to judge if I'm making progress, and I CERTAINLY don't want to hurt a therapist's feelings by saying that I feel like I'm NOT making progress, and, anyway, if I'm depressed, I'm feeling enough inertia that I don't want to make changes like changing therapists. . .
Also, this livejournal is the only forum I've ever found in which I'm comfortable talking about myself. I mean, the ONLY forum. Writing a private journal seems pointless, because who am I writing it for? Talking about myself in person feels egotistical. And while writing a livejournal IS egotistical, definitionally, it doesn't bother me, because I feel certain that y'all can just not read it if you're bored. Which means that I feel free to be boring, because I know that, no matter how boring I am, I'm not going to bore anyone who doesn't freely choose to be bored. Since there's no way you'll offend me by NOT reading this, I know that, if you ARE reading it, it's because, for whatever reason, you're interested.
So, in person, in therapy, I feel awkward. I understand that I'm paying the therapist for his or her time, so I should feel free to talk about myself. But I'm also pretty skilled at drawing other people out, so I've also managed to get them to talk about themselves. Which I am more comfortable with, but which kind of defeats the purpose of therapy.
And, in general, I can't figure out what I'd be trying to DO with therapy, anyway. I mean, I get depressed. The ability to feel happiness sometimes gets sucked out of me, so quickly and violently that I get a physical sensation of it draining out of my feet. There's not much I can DO about it. Talking about it doesn't help.
I can certainly see that, if I was to get some of the depression under control, I'd need to learn how non-depressed people do things, and that might be useful -- I remember that, when Lis and I were seeing a coach, that had some value for me. But I don't see how therapy would help for me.
I wish to stress that this is not intended as any sort of general dismissal of therapy -- I think therapy is a wonderful thing, and I'm actually a little proud I can list so many therapists among my friends. I just don't see how it would help me.
But I'm also aware that I could well be wrong. So I guess my question is -- how do I know if I'm wrong about this, and that I actually SHOULD give therapy of some sort another shot? It's not like we've got unlimited money, and I'm a bit resentful about the money and time I've wasted in it so far. . .
Anyway, the upshot is he upped my dosage of Lexapro, with the comment that it looked like the medication started failing about when the days started getting shorter, so we'll revisit the dosage in six weeks, and, if things are getting better, possibly cut back to the original dosage, with a note to go back up to the higher dosage in November.
And we also talked briefly about therapy as a possibility. I said that, while I wasn't resistant to the idea in principle, I wasn't enthusiastic about it, because I've seen maybe a dozen therapists of one stripe or another in my life, working with six of them fairly extensively, and had really nothing to show for it.
But Lis and I were talking about it further, and I'm trying to figure out if it's time to re-open the question and maybe start again.
And, well, as my friends list is chock full of 1) therapists 2) medical personel of various sorts 3) generally wise people 4) people who've benefited from therapy (with lots of overlap between categories), I figured I'd ask here.
The problem is that, well, therapy has mainly been a great waste of time and money for me. I don't know how to judge if I'm making progress, and I CERTAINLY don't want to hurt a therapist's feelings by saying that I feel like I'm NOT making progress, and, anyway, if I'm depressed, I'm feeling enough inertia that I don't want to make changes like changing therapists. . .
Also, this livejournal is the only forum I've ever found in which I'm comfortable talking about myself. I mean, the ONLY forum. Writing a private journal seems pointless, because who am I writing it for? Talking about myself in person feels egotistical. And while writing a livejournal IS egotistical, definitionally, it doesn't bother me, because I feel certain that y'all can just not read it if you're bored. Which means that I feel free to be boring, because I know that, no matter how boring I am, I'm not going to bore anyone who doesn't freely choose to be bored. Since there's no way you'll offend me by NOT reading this, I know that, if you ARE reading it, it's because, for whatever reason, you're interested.
So, in person, in therapy, I feel awkward. I understand that I'm paying the therapist for his or her time, so I should feel free to talk about myself. But I'm also pretty skilled at drawing other people out, so I've also managed to get them to talk about themselves. Which I am more comfortable with, but which kind of defeats the purpose of therapy.
And, in general, I can't figure out what I'd be trying to DO with therapy, anyway. I mean, I get depressed. The ability to feel happiness sometimes gets sucked out of me, so quickly and violently that I get a physical sensation of it draining out of my feet. There's not much I can DO about it. Talking about it doesn't help.
I can certainly see that, if I was to get some of the depression under control, I'd need to learn how non-depressed people do things, and that might be useful -- I remember that, when Lis and I were seeing a coach, that had some value for me. But I don't see how therapy would help for me.
I wish to stress that this is not intended as any sort of general dismissal of therapy -- I think therapy is a wonderful thing, and I'm actually a little proud I can list so many therapists among my friends. I just don't see how it would help me.
But I'm also aware that I could well be wrong. So I guess my question is -- how do I know if I'm wrong about this, and that I actually SHOULD give therapy of some sort another shot? It's not like we've got unlimited money, and I'm a bit resentful about the money and time I've wasted in it so far. . .
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Date: 2005-03-09 05:15 am (UTC)It really is a matter of figuring out what you want - let me emphasize that,
It really is a matter of figuring out what you want - let me emphasize that, <b<YOUR</b> wants. The six basic questions, whowhatwherewhenwhyhow, are what you need to figure out here.
I was in therapy from about age 6 til age 20. Age 20 I told the therapist that I wasn't going back. Part of my reason was my parents sending me regarding issues I felt were not strictly just-me, which made me angry about going. But part of it was, I had some idea of what I wanted to do. I had some handle on the six questions. Mine, for what it's worth, had to do mostly with socializing.
Looking back on the last 15 years, there were some times when therapy may have helped. Still, I'm decent with where my head's at a lot of the time right now.
I am no therapist. Not everyone needs therapy. Many people do, for limited times.
Lemme give you a benchmark: look at the six questions about your wants. Figure out how well you can answer them now. figure out how much any therapy helps with answering the six questions. If this benchmark works for you, great. If not, well, think of another one. I'll help as I can, as long as you'll let me.