Antidote to the real sappiness of the "delusion" post. . .

[xiphias]

Lis: "Can you get me the peanut butter?"
Ian: [looks in fridge, fails to find the peanut butter.]
Lis: "Oh, wait, it's right here. I already took it out."
Ian: [stomps away.]
Lis: "Are you running away from me?"
Ian: "No, I'm stomping away from you."
Lis: "I'm sorry I'm incompetent."
Ian: "I'm sorry you're incompetent, too."

Comments

[cheshyre]

I love you, dear...

[angelovernh.livejournal.com]

ergh.. {{{hugs to you both}}}
I think all couples have occasional disagreements. Heh, this just makes you seem more real. The sappy one was kinda unreal :)

btw, why do you keep your peanut butter in the frig.?

[bikergeek.livejournal.com]

I do too. No particular reason, just habit. My mom did it that way.

Old time peanut butter that doesn't have emulsifiers in it doesn't separate if you keep it refrigerated. Perhaps this is the origin of this particular habit.

[xiphias.livejournal.com]

Our peanut butter separates more slowly if we keep it in the fridge. Also, the oils go rancid more slowly, so that a jar lasts several months in the fridge, rather than a week or two out.

The fact that we don't buy peanut butter with emulsifiers or preservatives probably has something to do with it. I had to show Lis how you mix peanut butter when you first open it so that the oils mix in. . .

[angelovernh.livejournal.com]

ohhh! I just get Peter Pan processed stuff filled with preservatives so that's probably why. I don't know if I've ever tried the REAL stuff.. I ought to do that sometime.

[greenlily.livejournal.com]

My mom used to store her organic peanut butter in the fridge, upside down. I don't even know if they make this kind any more: it came in a big yellow plastic bucket. When you have 3 small children, anything that comes in a big yellow plastic *re-usable* bucket *with a tight-fitting lid* is more than worth the extra $. Anyways, she said storing it upside down made the oils blend better. ???

[xiphias.livejournal.com]

Teddee brand; that's the brand we get. Although we don't get the big plastic tubs; we get the little glass jars.

[janetmiles.livejournal.com]

Family story: first time we bought organic peanut butter, my Dad looked at the oil on top, said, "Ick!" and poured it off.

*Boy* was that peanut powder hard to put on a sandwich! Fortunately, it was a small jar and relatively quick to use up.

Note to Griffin, if you read this comment: this is also family humor of the non-hurtful kind. My Dad will be the first to repeat that story and laugh at it, not be embarrassed or ashamed. As Ian said, this isn't something I would do with you, because I know it would hurt you; I will do it with other people who I know will process it as humor rather than not-humor.

[griffen.livejournal.com]

*sighs* I'm sorry to read this.

[xiphias.livejournal.com]

This was teasing, of the non-humiliating kind. It's not something I'd do with you, because I know you don't process it. But Lis does, and understands the joke.

[cheshyre]

Heck, not only do I understand the joke, but I dared him to post it.

In all seriousness, I can't imagine Ian having an argument with someone he loves in which he seriously calls them incompetent. I don't think he could actually love somebody unintelligent.

So, the fact that I didn't notice the peanut butter on the table in front of me, and instead asked him to walk across the kitchen and check the fridge... If we can't tease each other about things like that, then our relationship is far more fragile than I think it is.

[elynne.livejournal.com]

The written-out form of the dialogue came across as - ambiguous in meaning. It's a definite case of a written format being unsuited to get across nonverbal nuances. :) We constantly tease each other about similar things in our household all the time.

[xiphias.livejournal.com]

Re-reading this, I realize that the humor that we put into this doesn't come across in text.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

Fortunately, I know you both, and was ROTFL and not worried about you at all. :)

A.
with hugs for both of you

[elynne.livejournal.com]

Yeah... I was kind of wondering, but if it had humour in it, it's all good. I hope. :]

[janetmiles.livejournal.com]

For what it's worth, I was *pretty* sure reading it that it was teasing; Lis's comment confirmed that for me, and I smiled.

[bikergeek.livejournal.com]

It most certainly doesn't, and the realization that this wasn't a serious fight was also a realization that I knew you both better than I thought I did, if this makes any sense...

[brooksmoses]

You know, I don't think it would really come across (in any ambiguous sense) in anything other than "being there", quite possibly even requiring a small amount of "being there and being either Ian or Lis".

That said, though, it ... well, for one thing, you wouldn't have posted it that way if it hadn't been amusing, I think. And so for me it was perfectly natural to backform some approximation of the intent with which it was said from the fact that it was an amusing interchange to you and her.

I'm glad that you've a happily functional relationship, and I'm glad for the evidence of the happy functionality that that sort of teasing seems to give you.

- Brooks

[yehoshua.livejournal.com]

All together now:

"sarcasm does not work on the net."

Repeat as necessary.

[angelovernh.livejournal.com]

Really glad to hear it was teasing!!! It could have been very nasty if it wasn't. I wasn't sure how to interpret it since I've never seen you two together.