Bartender Geek

I need to figure out how to turn the interpretive dance of horror I just did into a coherent response. Thank you for telling me this, and, well, I continue to be sorry you had to live through it. And I know what you mean on taking awhile to realize what seems in retrospect objectively obvious -- I didn't realize my first boyfriend had abused me till several months after graduation separated us, rather than right when he was choking and slapping me. (I regret not pressing charges against him, too, not least because I wonder if he ever did that to another woman and how many he might have gone through before getting in any kind of trouble.)