Disclaimer: I know nothing (or at least nothing more than I've picked up reading your journal) about Jewish ethics and good conduct.
I said that writing hurtful things in one's own notebook is bad, but that, as it wasn't intended to be seen by anyone, and therefore wasn't intended to hurt anyone, that is mitigating.
I'm someone who's discovering that if someone is irritating me, writing it all down explicitly (in a private journal not intended for anyone else to read, while in a location where others can't read over my shoulder) often stops me feeling as bugged about the person, or coming to a more rounded understanding, for example of why they might behave that way, or how the situation might look from their perspective.
I'm not remotely the write-things-down-to-analyse-them type, except now I (hesitantly) try it, it actually does work, and I can't seem to do this nearly as well without the writing down.
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Date: 2007-09-30 11:23 pm (UTC)I said that writing hurtful things in one's own notebook is bad, but that, as it wasn't intended to be seen by anyone, and therefore wasn't intended to hurt anyone, that is mitigating.
I'm someone who's discovering that if someone is irritating me, writing it all down explicitly (in a private journal not intended for anyone else to read, while in a location where others can't read over my shoulder) often stops me feeling as bugged about the person, or coming to a more rounded understanding, for example of why they might behave that way, or how the situation might look from their perspective.
I'm not remotely the write-things-down-to-analyse-them type, except now I (hesitantly) try it, it actually does work, and I can't seem to do this nearly as well without the writing down.
Would that really be considered a bad thing?