Boopsie is dying

[xiphias]

We're going to be taking Boopsie to the animal hospital to be put to sleep. She is just staggering a couple steps, and collapsing, and just trying to make herself comfortable. We're petting her and singing stupid songs to her and crying a lot.

Part of me feels weird feeling this much grief, given how many of you are in the process of losing parents right now. And, for that matter, that she's had 16 wonderful years, and isn't really suffering -- she's just weakening to the point of death.

I love her so much.

Comments

[redbird]

My sympathies.

Nobody else's grief devalues yours. Ever. (There may be times when you need to tell yourself to pull yourself together, but that's more to do with how much effect the grief--or other emotions--is having on the rest of your life, not on what you're grieving over.)

[ookpik.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry.

But yes, she had 16 wonderful years, and she isn't suffering.

As to the "losing parents"...of course, my relationship with my mother was complicated; still, I probably cried almost as much when Oscar (my previous cat) died, as when Mom did. And Boopsie's been with you much longer than I had Oscar.

*hug* You'll be in my prayers, all of you.

[estherchaya.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. It sucks to lose a member of your family, feline or otherwise.

[alcinoe.livejournal.com]

I told your wife, and now I will tell you, this may be the hardest thing you have had to decide, but it seems to me that it is absolutely the right choice. I feel for both of you during this time. *hugs*

[vvalkyri.livejournal.com]

I love her so much.

And she knows that.

:hugs:

[elgoose.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear this. It always hurts, no matter what. You will all be in my thoughts.

I feel for you

[dakiwiboid.livejournal.com]

This is the right choice. I waited until my beloved Harlequin had a stroke, which was wrong, and until I was on the verge of moving and either had to abandon a very ill Fuzzy to chaos or put her to sleep.

I grieve with you both. May the pain be short and the memories be long.

[filkerdave.livejournal.com]

*many hugs*

[chanaleh.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

You are entitled to your grief. Don't feel weird about it. There's plenty of grief to go around in this world; you can honor her with this share.

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

That's sixteen years (for L, at least) of relationship, of love, and dependency, and cuddling. Family.

I'd be falling apart were it DJ, and I can't imagine you two wouldn't be, too.

[bikergeek.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I'm sorry. As I told cheshyre, I hope you and she can find some comfort in knowing that this is the right thing and the kind thing to do for Boopsie. Good thoughts to you both. Call me if you need anything.

[desperance.livejournal.com]

So sorry; it's always a terrible time. Later there will be comforts, but right now it's just all about the tears and being strong, both of those together. Lean on each other, you'll come through.

[pocketnaomi.livejournal.com]

Love is not relative. Nor is pain. What you feel is not altered or diminished by what other people are going through.

I'm so sorry you're losing her. She sounds like a wonderful kitty. But she's lucky to have people with the responsibility and love to have taken care of her all her life... and to help her in this one last way which will make her death easier for her.

[michele-blue.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to all of you.

[not-the-angel.livejournal.com]

You both have my deepest sympathies. Boopsie picked two wonderful humans for her time on this planet.

[rosefox]

I'm so sorry.

I hope comfort finds you when the time is right.

[aethelflaed2.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

I'm so sorrry.

[hobbitblue.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry... losing someone you love after 16 years of company is going to hurt, be they human or animal, grief is personal and doesn't have a value or a limit.

[marquisedea.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry, Ian. My love is with you and Lis and your sweet Boopsie.

[mattblum.livejournal.com]

I'm so very sorry. I know exactly what you're going through, and I hope you can be comforted by the fact that what you're doing now is a final act of kindness to her, and that she knows how much you love her.

[temima.livejournal.com]

Do you want me to call you guys or something?

[jehanna.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. I wish you all much comfort and peace.

*hugs*

[noveldevice.livejournal.com]

Oh dear. Many good thoughts for you guys and for Boopsie.

[janetmiles.livejournal.com]

I am very sorry. Family is family, whether it goes on two legs or four.

Sigh

[unquietsoul5.livejournal.com]

You have our sympathy in her passing. I'm sure that she has had a good life through your efforts all this time.

Loss is loss

[wolfdancer.livejournal.com]

Love is love. Greif is not mesured by the size or shape of the pacage of the soul that holds it.
Comfort.

[whuffle.livejournal.com]

Oh Ian, I'm so very sorry for you and liz. I remember how this felt with Fuzzface. Yes, other people are losing parents, but Boopsie is just as important to you as any other family member. *hug* Your grief is worth having.

[kiya]

I'm so sorry.

[sashajwolf.livejournal.com]

Your grief is honourable and does not diminish the meaning of other griefs. I wish you all comfort.

[greenlily.livejournal.com]

*hugs you and Lis* I'm so sorry.

[ailbhe]

I'm so sorry. You're both being very brave.

[micheinnz.livejournal.com]

I'm very, very sorry. *hugs* to you and Lis, and to anyone else who wants them.

[fibro-witch.livejournal.com]

Other people are loosing parents, and you are loosing your child. The pain is just as strong.

We will have to have a memorial for her.

[wildcard9.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry to hear that. My brother just had to put down his dog, it just kept getting sicker and sicker, and the vet could do nothing to find and fix the problem. It was better for the dog that way (it was suffering) but still hurts.

[ruth-lawrence.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to read this.

I know how much you loved her.

[xiphias.livejournal.com]

Loved her, and still do love her. Whether or not Boopsie still exists in some form or not -- and I like to believe she does -- the love we feel for her doesn't go away.

[ruth-lawrence.livejournal.com]

Of course your love doesn't go away :-(

[felis-sidus.livejournal.com]

Boopsie loved you, too, and knew that you loved her. Listen to the wisdom of your friends who have posted here; your grief is reasonable, valid, and proportionate. And shared. *hugs*.

*HUG*

[tendyl.livejournal.com]

They are a part of our family and a part of our lives. Grieve for her and don't feel bad about it. *HUG*

[any-contingency.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear this, but it's better that you're there for her. She'll at least have that for comfort. She'll know she'll have your love. Sorry, bro.

[griffen.livejournal.com]

Honey, it's okay for you to be grieving. She's been your baby for 16 years!

I am thinking of you all.

[dandelion-diva.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. Sending good thoughts and vibes.