You're making a number assumptions about me, here.
Some of them are probably accurate. But let's look at them.
Is the problem that I didn't get in and feel pissy about it? Somewhat, yes. But that's not the WHOLE story.
Because, when I get upset and pissy, I try to figure out why. I try to figure out whether it's something internal to me, or if there is something external which is actually wrong, which needs to be fixed.
And it was clear to me that, in this case, there was a little from column A, and a little from column B.
Yes, this hit a number of internal buttons of mine -- I'd just come down from working a bunch of hours, and had seen a fair percentage of the people I came to the con to see walk into the party, and was turned away. Yes, that hit a whole lot of internal stuff that is not the responsibility of the party organizers, and that's what started to get me thinking.
So I had to ask myself -- are my reactions entirely because of my own shit, or is there a portion of this which is external?
Now, triggers about exclusion are a significant thing -- and I realized that the part of the situation which WAS external was precisely what I posted here: that a private party is okay, and an advertised party is okay -- but a private party which is advertised attempts to be in two categories at once, which is inappropriate, and that the fact that this event DID push my buttons was, obviously, because of my buttons, but ALSO because that "category error" was a Wrong Thing.
So -- your assumption that the "advertisement" thing is a strawman -- that's wrong. Because that genuinely is the thing about which I am upset that I think is external to me.
Had I gotten in, would this exist? Probably not, that's true -- but it nonetheless SHOULD. However, as I would personally not have felt like there was something wrong, I wouldn't have sat down and tried to figure out what it was. So, you are probably correct factually -- but that doesn't change the ethical situation. It merely means that I wouldn't have been aware of the problem since it wouldn't have affected me.
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Date: 2007-01-16 05:18 am (UTC)Some of them are probably accurate. But let's look at them.
Is the problem that I didn't get in and feel pissy about it? Somewhat, yes. But that's not the WHOLE story.
Because, when I get upset and pissy, I try to figure out why. I try to figure out whether it's something internal to me, or if there is something external which is actually wrong, which needs to be fixed.
And it was clear to me that, in this case, there was a little from column A, and a little from column B.
Yes, this hit a number of internal buttons of mine -- I'd just come down from working a bunch of hours, and had seen a fair percentage of the people I came to the con to see walk into the party, and was turned away. Yes, that hit a whole lot of internal stuff that is not the responsibility of the party organizers, and that's what started to get me thinking.
So I had to ask myself -- are my reactions entirely because of my own shit, or is there a portion of this which is external?
Now, triggers about exclusion are a significant thing -- and I realized that the part of the situation which WAS external was precisely what I posted here: that a private party is okay, and an advertised party is okay -- but a private party which is advertised attempts to be in two categories at once, which is inappropriate, and that the fact that this event DID push my buttons was, obviously, because of my buttons, but ALSO because that "category error" was a Wrong Thing.
So -- your assumption that the "advertisement" thing is a strawman -- that's wrong. Because that genuinely is the thing about which I am upset that I think is external to me.
Had I gotten in, would this exist? Probably not, that's true -- but it nonetheless SHOULD. However, as I would personally not have felt like there was something wrong, I wouldn't have sat down and tried to figure out what it was. So, you are probably correct factually -- but that doesn't change the ethical situation. It merely means that I wouldn't have been aware of the problem since it wouldn't have affected me.