"My disease is worse than yours/theirs" is problematic in any number of ways. At the same time, "this flu is/isn't as bad as the time I had X" can be useful, and I suspect that the comparison you offer here may help someone think about this question from a different angle.
Those are global/long-term comparisons: it makes entire sense to me and my loved ones for me to say that right now, I'm in better shape, so you decide whether we're going straight home, stopping for groceries, or sitting down somewhere and having tea while you recover.
If you (collectively) have reached a reasonable (for you) emotional balance on this, it's also useful to be able to think about okay, A needs days of doing nothing physical on a regular basis, B sometimes has zir back go out and will need time to recover, C's balance isn't so good and so zie shouldn't be asked to do certain things, and so on. That works for us, most of the time, because it's closer to dividing tasks and scheduling than to any sort of well-ordering of strength, health, or need for care.
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Comparisons are odious, but sometimes useful
Date: 2007-01-05 01:40 pm (UTC)Those are global/long-term comparisons: it makes entire sense to me and my loved ones for me to say that right now, I'm in better shape, so you decide whether we're going straight home, stopping for groceries, or sitting down somewhere and having tea while you recover.
If you (collectively) have reached a reasonable (for you) emotional balance on this, it's also useful to be able to think about okay, A needs days of doing nothing physical on a regular basis, B sometimes has zir back go out and will need time to recover, C's balance isn't so good and so zie shouldn't be asked to do certain things, and so on. That works for us, most of the time, because it's closer to dividing tasks and scheduling than to any sort of well-ordering of strength, health, or need for care.