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[xiphias]

My upstairs neighbor died.

My thoughts and prayers are with her daughter marquisedea, who doesn't deserve this.

Anna has had cancer for years now, and her death wasn't unexpected. But marquisedea is only nineteen, maybe twenty if I've missed her birthday. And she's had quite a bit more than her share of shit in the last couple years.

I have faith that Anna's okay. She has nothing further to worry about. But Sami's the one I worry about, because she has to live with it.

For Christians on my friends list: what do Christians do instead of sitting shiva? What is there I can do for Sami?

And, Sami, what is there Lis and I can do for you?

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[querldox.livejournal.com]

Food, but not Jell-o salads (all too commonly brought in the South). Depending on the person and your closeness to them, stopping by and talking or being there is considered good, but be on awareness as to whether that's working for the particular person.

If the 19 / 20 year old has no other family or people they're close to, it might be worth offering to sit in on any consultations with funeral directors to prevent them from pressure sales tactics ("Your mother, of course, would *want* to have our top of the line coffin...it's only N hundred/thousand more...").

[xiphias.livejournal.com]

Her being alone and without family support isn't an issue. As a matter of fact, one of the most valuable things I can offer her is the fact that there's nobody in the downstairs dining room right now, so if she wants to run away from her family, it's there.

Her father, uncle, aunt, other aunt, other aunt, uncle's girlfriend, grandmother, and three or four other people are there right now. And it's a five-room apartment.

Also, her mother's already made the plans for the funeral and burial.