When/if I'm considering giving someone advice, all those pieces of information are incredibly important to me, and a major part of how I decide to respond.
In fact, I don't see how you can compare your experience to those of your friends... your presentation is so different from theirs (or at least so different from your report of theirs), that I can't see the two messages as being the same, and so, of course, would not expect the responses to have much of anything in common.
I'll go farther and say that, while you do talk about your relationship, I've never seen a post from you about Lis, or from Lis about you, that I'd put into the category of "venting." Which seemed to be what you were talking about these women doing.
Re: On how people comment on other people's relationships.
When/if I'm considering giving someone advice, all those pieces of information are incredibly important to me, and a major part of how I decide to respond.
In fact, I don't see how you can compare your experience to those of your friends... your presentation is so different from theirs (or at least so different from your report of theirs), that I can't see the two messages as being the same, and so, of course, would not expect the responses to have much of anything in common.
I'll go farther and say that, while you do talk about your relationship, I've never seen a post from you about Lis, or from Lis about you, that I'd put into the category of "venting." Which seemed to be what you were talking about these women doing.
Kiralee