interesting. to me those things are highly relevant, and contribute to me not dreaming of telling either of you to just dump the other during times of trouble.
i thought about this whole issue some more, and i do have a pattern there, but it seems to me reactive -- i am more likely to tell women than men to leave the bastard, yes. i am more likely to tell women who seem to me to put up with a lot more than i think is healthy for them. and there are more women than men who do that among people of my acquaintance. there are men as well, mind; over the years i've known a lot of nice and kind men who put up with a lot of crap. and i think i act pretty much the same towards them. but overall there are more women in that role. and i am pretty sure that there are cultural factors for that.
Re: On how people comment on other people's relationships.
i thought about this whole issue some more, and i do have a pattern there, but it seems to me reactive -- i am more likely to tell women than men to leave the bastard, yes. i am more likely to tell women who seem to me to put up with a lot more than i think is healthy for them. and there are more women than men who do that among people of my acquaintance. there are men as well, mind; over the years i've known a lot of nice and kind men who put up with a lot of crap. and i think i act pretty much the same towards them. but overall there are more women in that role. and i am pretty sure that there are cultural factors for that.