Interesting observations. I've posted similar advice to a guy who was in a loveless, sexless, emotionally abusive relationship with a woman whose grown children were taking huge financial advantage of their stepfather. Rather, I asked why the complainer was staying. Years later, he's still bitching and still in the marriage, so I have to assume that he gets more from the relationship than he reveals -- perhaps including the righteous feeling of being persecuted. I've stopped reading his plaints. It was also fairly clear, if between the lines, that his wife would have a very different perspective on the matter.

However, I am also aware (having been the stay-at-home spouse and identified Crazy Person) that there are far greater complexities to any dysfunctional relationship. And that in practical terms, having one person at home dealing with things (even if not doing all the housework) can be very useful.