even if we KNEW someone who would be interested in such a situation with us, which, as far as we know, we don't.
Then my advice -- maybe not today, but soon -- is to go looking for them. I know a woman in more or less the converse of your situation -- I wouldn't necessarily suggest her personally, since the grography doesn't work, but it does demonstrate that a poly woman who wants kids and whose primary does not is a findable thing. There are probably even enough of them that you can be choosy. And then do some relationship work, the three of you, before bringing an actual child into the picture.
I would also ask yourself a few follow up questions -- like, do you need to be in a romantic relationship with the mother of your children? If not, your pool broadens to include single women who want kids and don't want to wait, whether they're poly or not.
Do you mind if the kid has more than two parents? If not, what about a lesbian couple?
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Date: 2005-03-21 03:30 pm (UTC)Then my advice -- maybe not today, but soon -- is to go looking for them. I know a woman in more or less the converse of your situation -- I wouldn't necessarily suggest her personally, since the grography doesn't work, but it does demonstrate that a poly woman who wants kids and whose primary does not is a findable thing. There are probably even enough of them that you can be choosy. And then do some relationship work, the three of you, before bringing an actual child into the picture.
I would also ask yourself a few follow up questions -- like, do you need to be in a romantic relationship with the mother of your children? If not, your pool broadens to include single women who want kids and don't want to wait, whether they're poly or not.
Do you mind if the kid has more than two parents? If not, what about a lesbian couple?