if you find another woman to have children with, in what ways do you see your relationship with Lis changing to accommodate your new primary focus (ie, your kids)
Much more than that, seeing the way this "goal" is so central to Ian's definition of self-worth [I neither agree or disagree with this], it would only be natural to expect that Ian's primary affection would also shift to the mother is his children as well. Dealing with THIS change, IMO, is the really the toughest issue that Ian & Lis have to discuss, and this isn't something that can be "worked-out" as things happen, because then would be much too late to be even remotely objective about it.
Having no experience of polyamory, I can only say my gut feeling is that it is best for the children, that mommy and daddy be each other's primaries.
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Date: 2005-03-20 08:35 pm (UTC)Having no experience of polyamory, I can only say my gut feeling is that it is best for the children, that mommy and daddy be each other's primaries.