When I realized I wanted kids, Ranj agreed that kids might be nice. We thought about it for the next couple of years, and it sounded like a good thing--in the future.
Then he had a stroke, and suddenly it was looking like there might not be as much future as we'd hoped. One night I said to him "You need to tell me whether or not you really want to have children with me. You can't string me along until I'm too old. If you do not want children, you need to tell me now so that I can decide if I can live with that or not."
If she has told you that she does not want kids, you need to decide whether you can really live with that or not. It sounds like not, but you might find differently if you sit down and examine your options closely. Another question is this: if you find another woman to have children with, in what ways do you see your relationship with Lis changing to accomodate your new primary focus (ie, your kids)?
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Date: 2005-03-20 04:12 am (UTC)Then he had a stroke, and suddenly it was looking like there might not be as much future as we'd hoped. One night I said to him "You need to tell me whether or not you really want to have children with me. You can't string me along until I'm too old. If you do not want children, you need to tell me now so that I can decide if I can live with that or not."
If she has told you that she does not want kids, you need to decide whether you can really live with that or not. It sounds like not, but you might find differently if you sit down and examine your options closely. Another question is this: if you find another woman to have children with, in what ways do you see your relationship with Lis changing to accomodate your new primary focus (ie, your kids)?