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xiphiasAnd one of the questions was describe your perfect mate and she wrote "Ian Osmond", and it reminded me of that study a couple years ago that happy marriages are based on self-delusion.
So I mentioned that to Lis, I said, "You remember that study a couple years back that in happy marriages, spouses rated their spouses more attractive, smarter, more interesting than they really were?"
"Well, yeah," she said, "of course. I mean, of course people would have to delude themselves that they had the perfect husband, since I'm the one who does."
"Yeah, that makes sense," I said, "I guess other folks would have to tell themselves that their spouses were as attractive as, say, you are. So I guess it makes sense that. . ."
Together: ". . . everyone else has to delude themselves that their spouses are as wonderful as you are."
So I mentioned that to Lis, I said, "You remember that study a couple years back that in happy marriages, spouses rated their spouses more attractive, smarter, more interesting than they really were?"
"Well, yeah," she said, "of course. I mean, of course people would have to delude themselves that they had the perfect husband, since I'm the one who does."
"Yeah, that makes sense," I said, "I guess other folks would have to tell themselves that their spouses were as attractive as, say, you are. So I guess it makes sense that. . ."
Together: ". . . everyone else has to delude themselves that their spouses are as wonderful as you are."