I was busy yesterday, so I didn't post this.

Ten years ago yesterday, I did the best thing I ever did in my life. I married Lis.

I said the following:

I pledge myself to you -- body, mind, and spirit. I promise to respect, honor, and cherish you. I promise to listen to you and be trustworthy towards you. I promise to be honest with you. I promise to support you physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

I promise to stand by you and to back you up. I promise never to shame you. When we fight, I promise to fight fair.
I pledge that, as of this day, I shall put us as a couple, and any children that we have, above all else. I pledge that our family will be my primary concern. And I pledge to provide a Jewish household for our family.

In all things, I promise to be your equal and opposite -- the other half of our now-mended soul that was split at the beginning of time and is only today being made whole.

Without you, I am not complete.

So: today is the day to check how I'm doing.

I've actually done pretty darned well this year. I am doing MUCH better at the physical and emotional support. I'm taking better care of the house, making a better home for us.

Lis sent me a SomeECards:
http://www.someecards.com/viewcard/c1954204d1586533ea4c5f1ef548f959

It says, "Let's never give up on trying to change each other."

The thing is -- we actually DO manage to change each other, and for the better. As You Know, it's a TERRIBLE idea to enter into a relationship with the expectation of changing your partner -- but we do. She's made me get my depression under control. She's made me learn to be more what I ought to be. I couldn't do these things without her.