This is a point that I've been trying to teach my 13 year old.
There are a few of us, in this life, who are able to remain calm in the face of anger. My Great Nephew (the 13 yr old that lives with me) is like his Grandma (my Sis) and his Mom. They are emotional folks.
When she was 6, she would cry when Tom caught Jerry, in the Cartoons. She and my Niece, her daughter, are both Tender-Hearted folks. :o)
My point is, as I've tried to teach B and others, "you are in control of you and you allow others to push your buttons or you don't."
I worked the last 12 years of my 21, inside a jail. Not as a guard or Officer, but I still worked face-to-face with guys and gals that would have stuck me with a sharpened tooth brush, if they could have.
In the face of all this anger, you either remain calm and professional, or you loose your temper and your job.
Violence breeds violence. Want an illustration? Just watch Hanity or O'Riley on Fox News. People there, shout, interrupt, and get belligerent. They never hear all the others have to say, and rarely does anyone, finish a thought or sentence, without two others, talking loud, trying to make a point that no one is listening too. and do they ever change the opinion of the other guests?
A calm attitude is what one needs to be a hostage negotiator, a Medic in battle or a good parent.
Those people like Phelps, do what they do on purpose! They get satisfaction in pulling the strings on your Marionette Suit and watching you dance, and you(all) put on that suit!.
Did you ever see Henry Kissinger? There was a man with total self-control!
Anyway, I offer this in a calm voice and with the intentions of a good friend, talking calmly and with a gentle attitude, to other friends! :o)
Self Control
This is a point that I've been trying to teach my 13 year old.
There are a few of us, in this life, who are able to remain calm in the face of anger. My Great Nephew (the 13 yr old that lives with me) is like his Grandma (my Sis) and his Mom. They are emotional folks.
When she was 6, she would cry when Tom caught Jerry, in the Cartoons. She and my Niece, her daughter, are both Tender-Hearted folks. :o)
My point is, as I've tried to teach B and others, "you are in control of you and you allow others to push your buttons or you don't."
I worked the last 12 years of my 21, inside a jail. Not as a guard or Officer, but I still worked face-to-face with guys and gals that would have stuck me with a sharpened tooth brush, if they could have.
In the face of all this anger, you either remain calm and professional, or you loose your temper and your job.
Violence breeds violence. Want an illustration? Just watch Hanity or O'Riley on Fox News. People there, shout, interrupt, and get belligerent. They never hear all the others have to say, and rarely does anyone, finish a thought or sentence, without two others, talking loud, trying to make a point that no one is listening too. and do they ever change the opinion of the other guests?
A calm attitude is what one needs to be a hostage negotiator, a Medic in battle or a good parent.
Those people like Phelps, do what they do on purpose! They get satisfaction in pulling the strings on your Marionette Suit and watching you dance, and you(all) put on that suit!.
Did you ever see Henry Kissinger? There was a man with total self-control!
Anyway, I offer this in a calm voice and with the intentions of a good friend, talking calmly and with a gentle attitude, to other friends! :o)