You'll notice that I'm not the only one who received the message I received.
I also notice that many received the intended message and this is obviously a skewed sample; of those who were initially turned away but weren't offended, how many do you think are finding this post and bothering to say anything?
There are also several people posting here who both got in and had a great time.
Naturally, what I heard fit with my expectations. That's the way that things work, and that's part of the sender side -- what expectations have been set up.
I'm talking about your world-view that predisposes you to find offense in this kind of circumstance; those planning the party had no part in that world-view, I'm guessing. Both the posters (and the invites) set up the expectation in me that dressing skanky was the way to go. The invites explicitly said, "Inappropriate dress required" (and no, I didn't get one because I'm a hot chick) but that was only heavily implied on the posters.
Re: One of the Party Hosts
I also notice that many received the intended message and this is obviously a skewed sample; of those who were initially turned away but weren't offended, how many do you think are finding this post and bothering to say anything?
There are also several people posting here who both got in and had a great time.
Naturally, what I heard fit with my expectations. That's the way that things work, and that's part of the sender side -- what expectations have been set up.
I'm talking about your world-view that predisposes you to find offense in this kind of circumstance; those planning the party had no part in that world-view, I'm guessing. Both the posters (and the invites) set up the expectation in me that dressing skanky was the way to go. The invites explicitly said, "Inappropriate dress required" (and no, I didn't get one because I'm a hot chick) but that was only heavily implied on the posters.