Today you hold her hand, you help her by letting her talk about how she feels. You give her the help she will need organizing a wake and funeral.

While Christians do not sit shiva, we hold a wake, where the casket is open, and people gather, pray at the casket for the dead. Then visit with the family.

If a mass is involved it will happen after the wake but before the interment.

Once the body is intered, people gather again, to eat, to share stores to remember the passing.